What are you looking For

[Oni]

What are you or do you look for in a relationship?
Do you need looks?
Carisma?
Charm?
Honesty?
Class?
Ect?

[chuckhart]

I have been single for many years now, and have given this a lot of thought.  I think Yukonron has said it so well that I won't repeat it here.  I hold his thoughts.

[Kritter]

Hmmm, what do I look for in a relationship? Well, the basics are course love, trust, honesty, loyalty, open mindedness, patience, a goof yet serious, wild in bed, etc… Hehehe.

Now personally think looks does have something to do with it. There has to be some physical attraction and “the looks” is a part of that. For me, I don’t care if she’s White, Hispanic, Black, or Mix. And I don’t care if she has brunette, blonde, purple, or mix colored hair. However, I do kinda care about the shape/weight of a person. I can stand heavy/plump girls; however if she is obese then no. I can stand slender girls, but not the scrawny and boney ones (come one now the girl needs some meat not just bones).

Then a course there is the “inner” looks that I generally strive to look for. Online is personally the great place to learn someone’s inner beauty than appearance. When I chat with folks, I don’t ask what the person looks like until I feel I know the person quite well. The only exception to the rule is when the other person asks for a pic first. When it comes to inner beauty, I look for someone who has key virtues (honesty, respect, etc). I don’t mind if she and I are complete opposites (sometimes opposites attract  ).

Something I think a relationship can last longer than the average relationship is couples who were good friends prior. I know couples that just automatically become couples right off the bat and learn from each other as time progresses, but those couples- what I have seen- doesn’t last long. Course there are couples that can prove me wrong. I am just talking from what I witnessed.

Hmmm, I honestly don’t know what else to say on the matter so I will end it here. 

[Oni]

What are you or do you look for in a relationship?
Something that completes me. Is my polar opposite. Some one who can keep a cat in check. A person who can tame a cat with out a cat knowing it before it’s to late.

Do you need looks?
On the inside…I would like to say completely on the inside, but I am a vane cat. I need the best looking Fox out there.

Charm?
Yesh, because I am a sap at heart. But you don’t want to over charm me, or I will get tired of it. So some one who knows exactly when and were to do it, and make me milt in there paws.

Honesty?
Could not have a relationship with out it.

Class?
Of there own style.


And so with out sounding overly sappy. … What I am looking for is Fox.

[Rosa D.]

I found what I want. Sperm and resources. I'm set! Just kidding.

[Oni]

So a man to go to work for you. LOL.

[Rachael]

I've given this a lot of thought.  What do I need?  What would I be willing to live without?  Just how shallow am I?  Is a sense of humor important?  Do I need to tell my partner everything?  Do I need to know everything about my partner?  Do I want to know everything about my partner?

As some of you may know, there are certain things that, if someone did in their life, I could not be in a romantic/sexual relationship with him.  It may be in the past, but every time I looked at him, I would see him doing that thing.

I worry that, at this point, my obsessions would get in the way of being in a relationship.  I worry about so many things.  I worry that he'll suddenly decide he's gay, I worry that I'll suddenly find out he's a child molester, etc.  I know both these things are rare, but it's happened to people I know, and that's really enough for me to worry.  What scares me is you just don't know.  You can't prove a negative.  Unless I'm with him every second of every day (which I wouldn't want), how do I know he's not lying to me when he says what he's been doing?  There's really no difference between him not doing it, and him doing it but no one knowing.

In this light, I guess the most important thing is that he be someone I can talk to about these concerns, someone who will listen deeply and speak lovingly to me, someone I can come to trust and show the most vulnerable sides of myself...someone I can leave alone without imagining him molesting children or having sex with animals.

After all, I don't worry about my family or friends doing these things.  I trust them, and believe they would never betray me.  When I think about it that way, I feel more confidence that I will find someone someday.

On a lighter note, I'm attracted to polyglots.

[Eternimus]

First and foremost my partner has to be honest with me. I don't care if you are worried about offending me. If you aren't honest, I will have little to do with you. I will not pry into every single detail of your past, because an element of mystery makes a relationship more exciting. And I also do not expect to be interrogated. Then there is a sense of humor. As serious as I act most of the time, I have a wonderful sense of humor and I play pranks on people on a regular basis. And joke-wise, it takes alot to get under my skin. Intelligence as well. I guess a simple way of saying this is I hate stupid people. They drive me insane and I often offer to remove them from this mortal coil to raise the collective IQ of my planet. I believe if you are emotionally and intellectually stimulated, then the physical part will come of its own accord. I just got lucky and found a woman who was all that and much more, and bi sexual to boot. I must say, for any stereotypical guy, I hit the jackpot. There are other more... hmm... shall we say "controversial" things I am attracted to, however those are not for the public eye.

[5m3rk]

That is an interesting question Onicat.

What do i look for in a relationship:
Trust
Love
Loyalty
Companionship
inward beauty
Intelligence
Looks do help - but seriously if a girl is a bombshell and has no brains - whats the point other than a one night stand...

But at the same time i think that with every relationship, what you look for change over time.