Bi Sexuals...

[Kritter]

Ok, this view point differs to person to person. So I am expecting (if any) conflict of opinions when it comes to this topic. Ok, here it goes:

*What are your views towards Bi’s?
*Could you see yourself dating and/or having a relationship with a bi sexual?
*For this scenario, if you were in a relationship with a bi sexual, would you be worried that he/she might suddenly want to have sex with the opposite sex?


As for me, I don’t have anything against bi-sexuals. Some folks just like the pleasure of both worlds. However, I do see how there could be folks who looks down upon bi’s.
Yes, I could see myself dating a bi-sexual. I don’t see why not. And depending of the person, who knows, maybe have a relationship with that girl.
However, I can see myself some what worry of her to suddenly want to have sex with a guy. One could say that I have little faith of her and/or I have insecurities of myself. But I think those thoughts do come up for most folks who have dated/ been with a bi sexual.

[Oni]

Meow,
   Well lets see how I can go about wording this with out sounding like a biggit. LOL. Bi’s or people whom swing both ways I don’t have a problem with at all. LOL I think some of them are weird. But hay they got the best of both worlds. Some times its better to be versitial. But through my experience those whom I have meet are not really bi, but are actors or facking it just for an image or to be cool, or different. I have meet a few whom I would call real bi’s. But that’s that bit.
   As far as in a relationship, that was open to sexual encounters with other parties. I don’t think I would be ok with my male partner sleeping with a girl. Its one of those things that I don’t like in a relationship. So I can see my self being friends with one, but not in a relationship with one unless they swore off girls. LOL. Ya I know that’s a biggit thing to say. But its one of the things I need in a relationship. For example (using me again lol) if say my partner was bi, and we had an open relationship. And one of our rules was that we both had to be there if we were going to play with a third party. I would feel really uncomfortable, and not be able to get into it if he was playing with a girl. So I simply would not want to be in a relationship with a bi person. And it’s not because I think they are bad people, its just cause that is not the lifestyle for me.
   I hope that came out right. If you have any questions please feel free to ask and I will try and better explain.

[yukonron]

i believe a big part of the debate goes back to the thread about 'cheating'. if you need your partner to be monogamous, and that is mutually agreed upon, then it shouldn't matter who he or she finds attractive. Trust & fidelity (or the lack of it) would be in place, regardless of what someone has between their legs.

[Goman Fox]

Personally, I could never have a boyfriend that was bisexual.  The thought of the person I'm with cheating on me (like, going behind my back to be with someone else, not the whole agreement thing that's okay with me) is a bit annoying, but if it was with a woman, it'd bother me.  That's actually one of my biggest fears, that someone I'm with would one day say they're bisexual.  To be completely honest, if Oni one day told me he was bisexual, no matter how long we'd have been together, I'd probably leave.  It just makes me really insecure and that insecurity would cause stupid problems in the relationship.

I've just had a lot of bad experiences with bisexuals so unfortunately, I don't trust most of them.  Before Oni, I was in a relationship with a bisexual guy.  I don't really count it as a relationship anymore because, well, it was a long-distance thing because I met him when he was going to school at UAF, before he got kicked out and sent home.  Anyways, we still considered us to be "together" yet after a few months, I found out that he had been sleeping with some 40 year old married woman for a while, and only found this out when he called me crying because the husband found out and was going to kick his ass.  I was all nice and supportive and forgave him, but it really did bother me.  Strange though because a few months after that, when I ended up cheating on him, he acted as if it was the end of the world, as if he was some innocent saint and I was this terrible person because I did to him what he did to me (except I did it with a guy ).  But whatever, not going into that story here.

I also don't like how the term "bisexual" can be thrown around so much.  To me, the only people who are actually bisexual are those who will have a serious relationship with either sex.  "I like women, but I'll have sex with a guy if I'm horny" isn't bisexual.  I'm sure if I was horny enough (and had my eyes covered and fingers in my ears) I could have sex with a woman, but that wouldn't make me bisexual.  Of course, I'm a bad example because no matter how horny I got, I would never have sex with a woman by choice.   For high school girls, it seems like being bisexual is this huge fad.  I swear, I'm sure if they polled my high school, at least 50% of the girls there would have labeled themselves as bisexual.  I'm not sure why that whole thing bothers me though.

I've also seen a lot of bisexuals (especially on furry forums) that go around saying "everyone is bisexual, most people just don't want to admit it."  I can say without a doubt in my mind that I am not bisexual.  I'm not attracted to women and really never have been and probably never will be, so to say I'm "bisexual and in denial" bothers me.

Unfortunately because of these bad experiences with bisexuals, I tend see bi individuals in a slightly negative way until I get to know them.  It's just hard to trust a group when most of your experiences with them have been unpleasant.  That's also why I'm generally not too fond of the furry and gay communities as a whole.  I wouldn't say I judge anyone based on what they are, but I'm generally more cautious and less likely to trust individuals right away if they're part of any of those groups.