no sex

[Oni]

How would you feel if you were in a relationship with some one and they wanted no more sex? The last time you had done it was almost a year ago, but they want to make it official and compelatly swear off sex? The don’t like physical contact what so ever not even kissing or holding hands? What would you do? Could you be in a relationship like that?

[Kritter]

After much thought of this topic, I would say NO, I would not be in that type of relationship initially. However, lets say, my partner decided to have ‘no sex’ what so ever after some time in the relationship, then she should expect for me to sleep around with some one else. It won’t be done right away a course; however, there will be an agreement upon between the both of us who I could and couldn’t sleep with. If she can not understand that, then I guess the relationship is over.

Reason why I made this conclusion is because I think a relationship needs some sort of physical connection. Whether by just holding hands, hugging, kissing, having sex, etc is some sort of physical contact between two parties. There is emotional/spiritual connection; however, I think physical comes before it.

[yukonron]

I agree. A quality relationship can still be maintained without sex, as long as permission is agreed upon to find physical attention elsewhere- in a safe fashion.
After a certain age, I believe couples have fully satisfying loving relationships without any sex. They just have to both be at that stage in life!
 

[Oni]

Its easy. I would fluff up all cute like look at them with those big adorably irristably cute eyes that only a cat can do, and then they are puddy in my paws. I would get my attention back.

[Goman Fox]

Its easy. I would fluff up all cute like look at them with those big adorably irristably cute eyes that only a cat can do, and then they are puddy in my paws. I would get my attention back.

Too bad you're with me, huh cat?  That doesn't work on me like you think it does with others.

Honestly, I wouldn't mind a relationship without sex.  It's really not that important to me.  A relationship where sex isn't expected would be the best though because occasionally I do enjoy sex.  I just hate having the expectation of sex being there.

[Oni]

LOL. Ya I have come to learn not to expect sex, not even when I try or plan to get it. If it happens YAY! if not then YAY! I got time with Fox. LOL. I think that's  why my mojo died down. LOL. Fox tamed it out of me.
Oh and just so as ya know puppy. I am that cute. It may not work on you, but others it does so 
hehe.
Ya your imune to just about all my tricks but I still got a few up my sleave. Muhahahahhahaha

[Rosa D.]

Wow, that first post pretty much summed up how I feel! I really don't like sex or a lot of physical contact. It's just not my thing. Anyways, I think that if you really truly loved someone you would be able to go without having sex with them. There are ways to relieve all that pent up energy! I'm not saying that people should go without any physical contact, but I think that people should be more accepting of their partners whishes to not have sex. That's all I can think of right now. 

[Oni]

but I think that people should be more accepting of their partners whishes to not have sex.

What if your wishes were to have sex? Shhould they not be accepting of that?

[Pinky]

I think there should be some ground to both compromise, as in the end a relationship is all about compromising

[Kritter]

But doesn't in almost every relationship sex is done like a lot for a period of time then it dies down?

Like Oni and Foxie for an example, Oni boasted (still does too) everytime he had sex with Foxie very frequently. Now the bosting is not as frequent as to when they were together.

Did that make sense? It's like the whole lesbian 'sex death'.

[Rosa D.]

but I think that people should be more accepting of their partners whishes to not have sex.

What if your wishes were to have sex? Shhould they not be accepting of that?

Like I said, there are ways to relieve yourself of those urges. I think that if you pressure your partner into having sex then you are technically taking advantage of them. They should be accepting if a partner wants to have sex, but it would be a lot nicer if people would take things like that slower instead of rushing into them. I guess really it comes down to the relationship itself, if you have a good relationship you stay together and eventually have sex, if not then too bad. That's the way I see it. It's just that in this day and age everything has to be sexualized, and it drives me nuts! "If you don't lose your virginity you're not cool!"

[Oni]

hehe I didnt loose mine till I was 18 and there is a lovely story behind that one. But that's  a for another topic. LOL.
I dont think one should be presured into sex...mmm maybe i worded things wrong.

Both partners should be respectful of the others feelings right.

So if one dont want sex and the other does...how does that work?

[Rosa D.]

So if one dont want sex and the other does...how does that work?

Like I said, if you have a good relationship you should be able to wait until your partner is comfortable, if not then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

[Oni]

ah I see.
So even though you both love eachother and one wants sex or some type of physical attenion even it if is not full on sex, and the other does not want to give it, then the relationship should be over?

[Rosa D.]

No, I said that physical attention is ok, just not full on "insert tab A into slot B." I was reffering to sex and not things like hugging and kissing. I just don't like doing things like that, but it's proven that we need physical contact with others. I'm saying that if someone is not willing to wait for SEX that maybe the relationship is not meant to be.