Monogamy: Natural or Not?

[Taylor-MadeAK]

Really, if you read through my posts on the subject, my response distills down to: "both."  Monogamy is natural in that it's a woman's instinct (instincts are hard-wired, you can't change them) to want a protective man around to look out for her own and her child's safety, and artificial in that this is largely achieved through conscious and unconscious manipulation of men on said woman's part.

[Crimson]

Really, if you read through my posts on the subject, my response distills down to: "both."  Monogamy is natural in that it's a woman's instinct (instincts are hard-wired, you can't change them) to want a protective man around to look out for her own and her child's safety, and artificial in that this is largely achieved through conscious and unconscious manipulation of men on said woman's part.

this just means i'm wierd but we all knew that i thought.

[Oni]

Darn Bene Gesserit witches. LOL

One could argue that really the choice in the relationship as to wether its mono or poly is up to the women. but what then in a gay or lesbian relationahip?

[Crimson]

well then its whoever is more femme is the chic. so the way i understand the dinamics in your respective dating you and kritter are the women.

[Oni]

but i am not dating kritter just to clarify that for those just coming into this thread...

and why would i be the effeminate one?

[Taylor-MadeAK]

There will always be those who are comfortable with sharing their mates, but I'll wager they are relatively few and are probably individuals who feel very secure in themselves and their relationship.  Putting myself in those shoes: if my wife wanted to, for example, sleep with my best friend, I'd be okay with it because I know she'd still be married to me no matter the outcome.  However, if I told her that I wanted to sleep with her (nonexistent) best friend...there would be a huge fight with plenty of hurt feelings and guilt-tripping on her part.  This is, in my experience, by far the most common emotional situation when it comes to monogamy.

and why would i be the effeminate one?

Because:

[Zev The Dog]

I had no idea Oni wore two pairs of sunglasses...

[Taylor-MadeAK]

Those are his "look!  I'm Corey Hart!" shades.

[Zev The Dog]

Those are his "look!  I'm Corey Hart!" shades.

Speaking of hearts, I need to cut mine out after seeing that picture and being reminded of Corey's legacy...

Anyone got a scalpel?

[Taylor-MadeAK]

I have a Swiss Army knife...

...I keep it really really sharp, tho.

[Zev The Dog]

I have a Swiss Army knife...

...I keep it really really sharp, tho.

Excellent! We can use some of that wonderful sake as a anesthetic.

but who shall the nurse be?

[Crimson]

There will always be those who are comfortable with sharing their mates, but I'll wager they are relatively few and are probably individuals who feel very secure in themselves and their relationship.  Putting myself in those shoes: if my wife wanted to, for example, sleep with my best friend, I'd be okay with it because I know she'd still be married to me no matter the outcome.  However, if I told her that I wanted to sleep with her (nonexistent) best friend...there would be a huge fight with plenty of hurt feelings and guilt-tripping on her part.  This is, in my experience, by far the most common emotional situation when it comes to monogamy.

and why would i be the effeminate one?

Because:

ROFL that's  great. I run out the door after 5 (yes I was running late... my coworker said 'your here late' before i realized it was 5 lol) to get out of work and to my bus and didn't even see the question. But after this answer i feel no need to explain.

[Taylor-MadeAK]

Glad I could be of service.  Caffeine situation better today?

[Crimson]

Glad I could be of service.  Caffeine situation better today?

yep complete with the dr pepper bottle on my desk. aw hell i was trying for drinking more water but thinking on it dr pepper has water in it