Porn

[Oni]

This question mainly to the people that have a wife, mate, companion, boyfriend, ect.... and to everybody else.

Even though you are with some one do you look at porn? And Why.

I am sitting here talking with some one who is telling me that if he had a boyfriend he would never look at porn cause ... " If I have an cock or an ass at my disposal? I don't need porn." Sounds like a good theory to me... But ya know what that's  just a theory and does not work IRL.

[Eternimus]

Are you kidding? My wife loves women as much as I do. She has actually asked me to find some porn for her. Watching it together? Why not?

There is a fatal flaw in most anti porn theories. And that is it's used solely for sexual gratification to ones' self. This is not the case. I have watched porn that had me laughing as much as a comedic skit. I've used it for anatomy lessons. Both teaching and learning. I've seen some that made my partner hot, but not me. I've used it for ideas. I've used it to freeze at different points to improve my drawing ability. There are many uses for it. Just because you have a partner that does not mean porn is instantly useless.

The most perverted use porn as an excuse to masturbate. And nothing more. But it has various uses. You have to be very closed minded to only use it for sexual gratification. It can be used for many other things, as I stated previously. The fact is. it's very versatile. We've even used it to pull pranks on people, like giving a homophobe tranny porn. He was all hot over the "cute little girl" as he put it till he saw the [WANG] then he freaked out cause he thought he was gay and checked himself into API.

That's one reason it's awesome. Mind fucks.

[Oni]

What about if you are using it for sexual gratification with out your partner there?

[Eternimus]

That differs from relationship to relationship. Some couples will be fine with it, other will be insulted by it. I wouldn't care if Crimson did. Same reason I don't mind if she posed in Playboy, walks around the house naked, or goes out with me wearing as little as legally possible. Because I know she's mine. No matter what. And she knows if she sleeps with another guy I'll flat out fucking kill him. I don't care if other guys stop and stare. Cause she comes home with me. I ~hardly~ consider masturbation cheating. Besides most of the porn my wife likes is girl on girl, or anime. Like I care if she's turned on by women. And getting angry over your partner fantasizing is stupid if it's from a movie. It's not like they can have whoever they're drooling over now can they? now if it was another person, like a friend or something, I might have issues.

[Oni]

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oC6JDH_S7jE" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oC6JDH_S7jE</a>

And the song for your listening pleasures.

Promise after hearing the song you will never watch that scene in the movie the same way.

[Eternimus]

Man, ok it's like this. I told you this when we were kids, I'll say it again. Stop getting perverted with Aladdin you cannot bang him he is a cartoon. Banging your tv would really chaff your willy. So stop it.

[Oni]

Man, ok it's like this. I told you this when we were kids, I'll say it again. Stop getting perverted with Aladdin you cannot bang him he is a cartoon. Banging your tv would really chaff your willy. So stop it.

OH but why not?

[Rosa D.]

I let my SO look at as much porn as he wants, not to make it sound as if he looks at porn all the time. Well, with the exception that he stays away from it when he's supposed to be doing something important. I don't see how it could possibly damage what we have going which is a strong relationship. I was actually surprised to learn that he and I have some of the same interests. Watching it together can be fun, it gives you ideas to try new things. When I'm not home I don't care if he looks at porn, he usually collects it so I will draw him sexy pictures anyways. If he uses it for sexual gratification while I'm not there doesn't bother me one bit.

[Rachael]

I'm pretty much with Rosa.  I don't really care if my SO looks at porn, and he'd better not care if I do. :p Although if he looks at the same kind of stuff Luke does, I might be a little worried about him.

I don't mind if he fantasizes during sex or masturbates while he's alone, either.  Everyone needs some time to themselves.

[Badinage]

...Because I know she's mine. No matter what. And she knows if she sleeps with another guy I'll flat out fucking kill him...

That seems a little harsh. WHat if the other guy didnt know she was involved with you?

[Eternimus]

...Because I know she's mine. No matter what. And she knows if she sleeps with another guy I'll flat out fucking kill him...

That seems a little harsh. WHat if the other guy didnt know she was involved with you?

That would involve a level of deception on my wife's part. Which would have consequences. On both their parts. Maybe not death then. But I'd make sure it never happened again.

However, if it was forced on her... Then I'll have a neat new chalice made from someone's skull.

I don't care if that seems harsh to anyone. I'm very jealous and possessive. And a freaking psycho, battle tested and battle ready.

But we won't have that problem cause she can have a girlfriend. She was interested in women first after all.

[Eclectic Soul]

Here are the benefits I have found from viewing porn with a partner...
1. Porn can be a good way to "start things off" if both of you are submissive types
2. It can give you ideas on things to try (it's great for us visual learners)
3. Fuel for fantasies

The best thing is to know your partner and what he or she is comfortable with. I can do with or without it when I am getting intimate.

[Frankie87]

Even if I'm with someone I still look at porn. I think porn can be a very good learning tool to try new things in the bedroom. It can also be amusing. Sometimes I watch porn just to laugh at the poor acting. Sometimes it's interesting to see all of the fetishes out there even if I never try them myself. I don't always get turned on by porn, but I do occasionally. I don't consider masturbating to porn a bad thing and if my partner wants to do so, by all means they can! The only time it's a problem is when they choose porn over you, now that is unacceptable!

[Eclectic Soul]

Even if I'm with someone I still look at porn. I think porn can be a very good learning tool to try new things in the bedroom. It can also be amusing. Sometimes I watch porn just to laugh at the poor acting. Sometimes it's interesting to see all of the fetishes out there even if I never try them myself. I don't always get turned on by porn, but I do occasionally. I don't consider masturbating to porn a bad thing and if my partner wants to do so, by all means they can! The only time it's a problem is when they choose porn over you, now that is unacceptable!

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You're right my dear. Now you got me thinking...*wink*

[Kritter]

Whoo, I've not posted here for a while and this topic caught my interests. So here is my two cents:

Like the majority of everyone here, I too will allow my mate to watch porn and I expect the same.

With my previous mate, we watched hentai together. Though I can only remember doing that once. I do remember getting turned on and I think she was too but I'm not too sure since nothing happened after watching it. XP

Personally, when I was with her, there were times when I wanted to watch porn by myself and wanted to masturbate. While I was with her, my wants to doing it was not plausible because she lived in my room 24/7 for a month. I don't remember if I ever mentioned it to her or not- most likely not. But I do remember that we had a talk about different types of porn and it turned sour.

The reason why I brought that up is because I think there are times when one of the pair or both would like to watch porn and masturbate with out the other; and, to me, that's totally OK. I think every person at one point or another, needs there alone time away from the other sexually. Reason behind it can be any sort of things. For me, it was because I needed some alone time.