Looking For Love

[Goman Fox]

Has anyone here ever had success with this?  What I mean is, have you ever had a long-lasting, meaningful relationship with someone that you met with the intention of becoming romantically involved with?

It's just that from my experience and observations, it's far more common for people to have those meaningful relationships when they let them develop with people they know, rather than the "I'm looking for a single blahblahblah" or "Hey, you're cute/funny/smart/whatever, lets go on a date even though I don't know you."

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting to know people, and even hoping that someone they meet would make a good partner.  It's just that, from what I've seen, people are "actively looking for a boy/girlfriend" and tend to jump at any potential partner they see, set themselves up for failure.

I believe I'm with Oni because I got to know him and after a while, it felt like there was a match, not because I was "OMG, I needz a man or I wont feel complete."

What do you all think about this?

[dom]

though I am "actively looking" for a mate, I agree that relationships work better in most cases when you have been friends for an amount of time. there seems to be more of a connection when you have known the person. and you know what makes that person happy or mad.