Sex Question.

[Oni]

I have a question about sex.

It's an honest question so bear with me as I say it.

If you are a lesbian and you have sex with a herm that considers them self a girl(that has a penis but now vagina) is that still lesbian sex?

[Mazzy]

I would have to say yes but Im slightly biased *chuckles*

[Oni]

Wouldnt that be strait sex?

And what if say the herm had sex with a guy...would that be gay sex or strait sex as well?

This though a funny question. I view as an honest questino and would like peoples inputs on it.

[Kritter]

I have a question about sex.

It's an honest question so bear with me as I say it.

If you are a lesbian and you have sex with a herm that considers them self a girl(that has a penis but no vagina) is that still lesbian sex?

This is a good question to ask and I'm sure there will be a lot of different view points.

To me, it doesn't matter if it's straight and/or lesbian sex. Why label sex? I mean sex is sex.  When two folks consent in the act of sex/love making (how ever you see it as) then it doesn't matter if it's straight, lesbian, or gay.

[Oni]

*roles eyes* Ok sorry hun. That's the gay'st answer I have yet to hear. Another question in this could be very simple.

Is the Lesbian that is having sex with the herm actually a lesbian?

But why label sex. DUH so people understand what you are talking about when you say you had sex.

[Kritter]

*roles eyes back at you*

Well, you asked for opinions and I shared mine.

Is the Lesbian that is having sex with the herm actually a lesbian?

That question is up to the lesbian herself. But if you are referencing that question for everyone to input (which I know that is what you meant), then I really don't know how to answer that. I'm stuck on that one. 

[vapor]

Herm??   am i correct in assuming this would be a transgendered person?

please under stand that i think  it is up to the individual partners to label the event as they care to, if they even need to.

the thing to rember is that a persons gender is between the ears, their sex is  between the legs.



a MTF (male to female, transwoman ) making love to a woman
 would be lesbian sex.

a FTM (female to male, Transman) making love to a woman would be straight sex

a MTF making love to a FTM would be straight sex.

a FTM making love to a man would be gay sex

In the past it has been normal to repress the gender to match a persons sex.
 at some point late in life a person may begin to transition  to their true gender. this transition can put enormous strain on a long established marriage.
A heteronormative marriage suddenly becomes a same sex marriage. (a 3 year process) Not many survive.
Happely it is becoming more common for young trans persons  to be rased as thier gender.

[Goman Fox]

Herm??   am i correct in assuming this would be a transgendered person?

"Herm" is short for "hermaphrodite" which is, in my understanding, someone who is born with both male and female characteristics, usually both male and female sex organs.

It's not very common, but it happens more often than some people would think (especially since some people aren't aware of it at all and think it's just made up. <.<)

From what I've heard, a lot of the times when a hermaphrodite is born, doctors usually "correct" the child by removing one type of sex organs, usually making the child female since it's easier than leaving the child male.  Doesn't always happen though and some people are just left the way they are born.

[Kritter]

*ponders*

This is a very good question Oni and you had me ponder about this for a while now.

Would it really matter if a lesbian sleeps with a herm? Gah, thinking about this in my head then trying to put it into words where everyone can read and understand my beaner logic is quite difficult. LOL. XP

What I believe and truly feel is that the physical characteristics do not matter in this scenario and any other scenario. The emotional/spiritual (how ever you look at it) connection is what matters most. So what if the other person has a penis or vagina. For me, it truly doesn’t matter.

Would you call it a straight relationship? Well, that depends on how one sees it. Right now, I’m in between the “yes” and “no” response, but leaning towards the “no”.


How about seeing it as a bisexual relationship?
    -Both go either way


Why not label it as a lesbian relationship?
    -Both feel, believe, and act as females.


Does defining a relationship type gets determined only from the physically attributes of each person?


Those were just thoughts and idea for any possible discussion.

[Oni]

Well then by your agruement a person would have no physical sex. Because there sex is depterminded by there personality/physiy/yin/yang what ever.

So by that arguement you could say that Fox and I have a strait relationship because one person always plays the opsite as the others.

Lets really simplafy the questions.

Let's say your a Lesbian, and you have sex with a Transfestite (man who dresses like a woman). Is that lesbian sex?

[bennett]

I would have to say yes, simply because generally men who go through the complete process of becoming a woman due so because that's  who they really believe they are, and to think of them a still a man tend to find that a complete insult of their person. Whats more interesting is that a lot of those men who go through that are always afraid someone will find out they're not a natural born woman, theres quite a few who have no reason to tell anyone they're not because theres really no difference (visually). So in the end, the lesbian is *gasps* still a lesbian and so is the woman who was once a man. And if a man where to have intercourse with a male to female woman he would still be strait. The woman simply isn't a natural born woman (physically) but that doesn't make her any less of one.

[Kritter]

Let's say your a Lesbian, and you have sex with a Transfestite (man who dresses like a woman). Is that lesbian sex?

No, that would be trans sex. 
Naw, I would say straight sex for sure.

OK, I think I'm finally understanding what you are trying to say.

Labeling is to help detail the conversation and gives/tell the other people understanding of what you are saying. Ok, I finally get it Oni. LOL.

[Mazzy]

for those interest Im the herm lol

I believe that this has a simple answer it is all of the above because in the end its all about point of view...

for example me + female = Straight or Lesbian
                me + Male = Straight or Gay

but the real twister would be Me + another Herm = all of the above?

in the end its in the eye of the beholder and its as simple as that for me Im female I will always be female I have a female name and have always lived female so therefor Im a female
so If I have sex with a woman its Lesbian and with a man straight.. because that's  my point of view and each persons is different.

[bennett]

Hooray for the herm!

[Rachael]

I just skimmed the replies.  Maybe I'll read them in full later.  I saw some other lifestyles brought up.

Woman having sex with male transvestite - Straight sex.  Many men simply like to dress up in dresses and makeup; it doesn't mean they sincerely feel they are the opposite gender.

Woman having sex with transsexual - This depends on whether the partner sees herself or himself as a woman or a man, and whether or not the woman agrees with that person.  It would vary depending on the answer.

Woman having sex with hermaphrodite - Again, this would depend on how both partners view the hermaphrodite's gender, and the woman's sexuality.

Me?  I love stuff like this.  I always daydream about being with somebody who's unique in some way, whether "unique" means a particular interesting job--working with animals, a celebrity, a politician--or with a unique physical characteristic--an amputated limb, an unusual birthmark, or both sex organs.  I also daydream about transsexuals, transvestites, and hermaphrodites.  I think such things are interesting.  They're not even sexual daydreams--just me wondering, "What will the man I end up with be like?"